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Surfing with Confidence: Fake it 'til you make it.

June 14, 2019 by Sara Dyer in How to Be in the World, Surfing, stay wild moon child

How do you become confident out there in the water? I’ve been thinking about this a ton lately and, while safety is a huge priority, getting out of your comfort zone is too. “Fake it ‘til you make it” is the phrase that comes to mind.

I think it’s really important to go for waves every sesh that are out of my comfort zone, that look a little bigger and gnarlier than I’m cool with. And to be approaching it with confidence: Ok, I’m gonna rip this. Half the time I eat shit. But the other half? I may not quite rip it, but I make it, and my confidence gets a boost. I’m learning, I’m growing, I’m expanding what I can do.

You have to keep moving forward. It’s all process. And the more opportunities you give yourself to prove you can do it, the more confidence you’ll have.

June 14, 2019 /Sara Dyer
confidence, surfing
How to Be in the World, Surfing, stay wild moon child
Yard filled with plumeria behind Sunrise Shack. Sleeping pigs, hens and chicks outside the frame to protect their privacy. (c) Sara Dyer

Yard filled with plumeria behind Sunrise Shack. Sleeping pigs, hens and chicks outside the frame to protect their privacy. (c) Sara Dyer

Burned--and Stoked--in O'ahu

May 01, 2019 by Sara Dyer in Surfing, stay wild moon child, travel, How to Be in the World

I call him the Wave Fairy. Maybe 5’8, orange as Arizona clay, sits on his board like he’s touching his toes in yoga while he paddles. He’s got earplugs in his ears, sun goggles on his eyes, and what looks like a pan pipe in his pocket that he brings out every now and then when he wants to give us a little diddy.

This soul surfer paddled out to the break at Sunset Beach and I watched him move seamlessly with the waves. I just couldn’t get over how he paddled so effortlessly while sitting up with his legs stretched out in front of him.

No one else seemed to notice him. I stayed to the back and outside of the group filled with groms and surf instructors—I was trying to get my sea legs as I do surfing in a new area. Trying to get the lay of the water, the line up, the vibe. But also, to be frank, partly afraid of making a move and getting heckled. My beach at home is a half mile long and, at least on the days I tend to go out, there’s waves enough and space enough for everyone.

That’s when the Wave Fairy looked at me. “The next left’s yours,” he said. “You’ve been waiting a long time.”

I looked at him, surprised, and nodded. I smiled. He was sending me just the karma and good vibes I needed, this guy who with one look I knew had surfed this break a thousand times.

A fluke wave came my way and didn’t seem to be curling left as all the others had He let out a hoot. “Go for this one!”

I paddled and paddled but no dice—wave had no push and curled left after all.

I got one nice ride in on that seshie but I took away so much from my mystical encounter, this kindness he shared with me. I wondered if that was his role—Wave Ref, Wave Ump, Wave Fairy whatever. Keeping it real, and fair. When he caught a ride, he pressed his back gingerly, as if it hurt, and it dawned on me why he might be sitting that way on his board. But he was still out there, playing a role, having a paddle, and helping a rookie like me feel more comfortable in a totally new place. Mahalo, Wave Fairy, mahalo.

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I learned other, more painful lessons in O’ahu. Spending six months surfing in 6mm wetsuits under the gray New England winter sky does not prepare you for the scorching sun of Hawaii. I should have known this. This should have been the thought laced in with every other thought preparing for the trip.

The first day out in Waikiki with Dan, I spent four hours surfing Threes and Fours. About five minutes in, I saw what I’m almost positive was a white tip reef shark, turning and hightailing it out to sea. I was so convinced because I look at a lot of pictures of sharks and fish—growing up in New England who doesn’t?—and there were 1) no glinty scales and 2) the skin was that muddy river color that many sharks have. Despite the fact the creature was clearly not interested, I spent the rest of the seshie with my legs out of the water, knees to my board, versus sitting on my board with my legs in the water as I normally would. That, plus a long paddle out = deep-fried, second degree burns on the entire backs of my legs, from where my board shorts hit to my ankles.

It was a total rooky-kook move. I had worn long sleeves on my arms (thank you, Seea), so I was fine there, but my legs? Not so much. I spent the next few days with swollen ankles, troubling stomach “issues” and burnt skin pulled so tight I felt like a human sausage (a line I picked up from my lovely, expecting friend Kenz, who was describing how it feels to start outgrowing your body as your tiny human stakes a claim in your belly).

I immediately went to Hawaiian Island Creations and picked up not one, but two, pairs of surf pants (this pair, by Da Kine, saved my life. The other pair was by Hurley and just too tight over my burn but I can’t wait to wear as you can treat them as normal leggings too. Think: move from fun brunch seamlessly to surf sesh). I knew it would suck to pull the leggings on over the burn but there was no way I was missing out on surfing on the trip. We gave ourselves two days of rest (Dan got pretty toasted too) and then went back out there, this time on the North Shore by Sunset Beach. The break was filled with groms and surf schools and I hardly caught anything the first day but the second day was beautiful. A friend of the owner of the place we were staying gave us a tip to try out another section, and I had two great rides. An enormous turtle—the size of a kiddie pool—popped his head out of the water right in front of me and we both managed to completely terrify each other. I practically fell off my board and the turtle immediately dove back down into the water, and far away from me.

The other two lessons I learned on the trip, or rather, relearned for the millionth time, are that patience and position are everything in surf. Patience in the line-up, patience waiting for a set, patience, patience, patience. It’s a fundamental part of surfing, as important as any other piece. As for position—you can have patience for days but if you’re too far away to catch the wave, nothing ain’t happenin’. Learning to read the language of waves and getting yourself in the best position will go a long way to a great ride.

View at sunset, at Sunset. Rain is coming. (c) Sara Dyer

View at sunset, at Sunset. Rain is coming. (c) Sara Dyer

The last sunset dropped in the sky the night before we left where we stayed in our hill top surf bungalow and I could hear the rain and the chirps and calls of the birds all around us. Armed with my new “brunch-meets-surf” leggings and blessings from the Wave Fairy, I thought, “I am unstoppable” and drifted off to sleep.

Eats
Waikiki
Roy’s: GET THE SCALLOPS AND MAC-NUT CRUSTED FISH (I thought it was opa but it might be something else…)
North Shore
Haleiwa Bowls GET THE BLUE CLOUD “Tastes like cotton candy” the girl behind the counter said and it was so true.
Sunrise Shack GET THE COCONUT BULLET
Fumi’s Shrimp Truck GET THERE

Getting there
Shout out to Hawaiian Airlines for free wine with your meal and flowers in your hair. My only complaint is, if you’re going to offer A Star Is Born on your TVs, every seat should come with a fresh pack of tissues. Please and thanks.

May 01, 2019 /Sara Dyer
North Shore, Oahu, Hawaii, surf, Da Kine, Sunrise Shack, Haleiwa Bowls, Roy's, Fumi's Shrimp Truck, Wave Fairy, Hawaiian Airlines
Surfing, stay wild moon child, travel, How to Be in the World
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10 Days on AZ: The Best Roadside Ostrich Ranch in 'Merica

March 04, 2019 by Sara Dyer in travel, stay wild moon child

We had three options on our trip from Tucson to Sedona. We could drive straight there—3-4 hours. We could stop at the Biosphere or Ostrich Ranch. And the third option was to hike Camelback Mountain which would break the trip up well. We decided on Option 4: checking out the ostrich ranch and trying to squeeze the hike up Camelback in, on La Cholla Trail.
The Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Ranch is strategically placed right off Route 10. It planted a seed in our brains when we drove to Tucson, and it was an easy stop on the way back. According to it's pamphlet it has been voted one of the “Best Roadside Attractions in America!” and my God, they were right.
What do you want to do?
You want to feed cownose stingrays? Done.
You want to stroke the brow of nibbly donkeys? Done.
You want to fling your arms out gently and have lorikeets land on your head and arms to suck the nectar out of a cup? Done.
”Here’s your cups,” the woman at the front said. “Go through the gates and watch the movie before you feed the animals.” Inside the cups were large green pellets, a wooden coffee stirrer with bird seed coated on one side, a cup with tokens and a small capped cup of liquid. The movie explained well who we were to feed what to, as did the myriad signs within the ranch. I appreciated this. This shit was locked up tight.
First, we go to the donkeys, with their quivering lips and their big deep eyes. Then the fallow deer—so gentle and laconic, their backs dappled with snowy white.
Then, things got interesting.
”Goat penthouse?” we asked.
Up perhaps fifteen to twenty feet in the air was just that: A goat penthouse. There must have been ten to fifteen goats just hanging out.
”I don’t know how I feel about this,” said every hipster ever who visited, including me. Hence, the sign explaining in detail how “the goats literally race one another out of their pen to get to the goat penthouse every morning, because they love sitting up high.”
Life is so strange.
It was magical. Ostriches craned their necks for their pellets, their dinosaur-like feet enormous, holding up their large beautiful bodies. Then there were bunnies, ducks, chickens, lorikeets. Feeding the duck was an act of faith. “Just hold your hand like a fist with a small opening, and the pellet inside the fist.” Oh ya? I thought. Just that? But I sallied up and did it. And it was nothing. They had no teeth, and they were laser-focused. I liked their cool smooth beaks.
Inside the lorikeet exhibit, we walked in with our cups of nectar, keeping one hand covering up the cup until we were ready. “You don’t need to take the cap off,” the man in charge of the exhibit said. “They’ll do it for you.” We nodded, and walked to the middle of the exhibit. We looked at him. “Ok then,” he said.
Flashes of green, blue, red and purple came from everywhere and landed on our arms. I had fed lorikeets before, in Carolina Beach at an exhibit. I remembered their strange tongues like cylinders, and how bossy they can be. They were beautiful.
The guy manning the exhibit lived next door. According to him, apparently Ozzy Osbourne stopped at the ranch recently intending to spend only a bit of time there. “Can we spend the whole day here?” he asked. Ozzy, I get it.
This place was heaven on earth.
The last thing we did was put our hands in the water of the cownose rays. Their backs are so smooth. I kept trying to work up the courage to let their strange mouths suck on my fingers (what they do if they think you’ve got food) but I chickened out every time. But hey, it’s always good to leave a reason to go back.

March 04, 2019 /Sara Dyer
ostrich, Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Ranch, Arizona
travel, stay wild moon child
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