free my sol

free my sol is a phrase I’ve had rumbling around in my mind for a long time. It works on so many levels: free my soul (unleash, set free the spirit/ being/true self/let your true self be seen); free my sole (untether/release/set free the self from a situation, context, state of being, or more literally, run the world, surf the world, travel the world); and free my sol (the Spanish word for sun), as in let your inner light and joy shine, warming you and others.

My good friend came over for dinner. “Bring two of your favorite tea bags,” I said, when she asked what she could bring. She brought over Egyptian licorice, which was spicy and delicious. And on my tea bag, at the top, on the little piece of paper you drape over the rim of the mug were these words: May your light become a living universal light.

Can it really be that simple? I asked myself. And I’m leaning towards yes.

I’ve often wondered if that’s enough—if it’s enough to simply be happy and shining, and at the end of the day, I think it is. Those words captured that, as do the words of the late great Sharon Jones: I sing because I’m happy, I sing because I am free., as well as the Anne Franks’ simple and striking observation: Whoever is happy, will make others happy too. Our thoughts and our energy are two of our most valuable resources.

There’s no end to the dreams I have, and the things I want to do, and the experiences I want to have and share in this life with the people I love. And I’ll do all of them, or some of them, and I can’t wait. But most importantly is that I’m simply shining and dwelling in gratitude and vibrating at the highest frequency, remembering the core which is ever-drumming, ever calling, and remembering what Mary Oliver always remembered, that we all have a place in the family of things.

How beautiful, how reassuring, how magical is that?

My Book: Be Surf: A Surfer's Brief Manual for Living = Published and Live on Amazon!

The day is finally here! The book I’ve been working on about my anecdotes learned through surfing is available on Amazon. This short and sweet collection of vignettes was so damn fun to write and I am really proud of it. My extremely talented friend and fellow surfer Amber H Myers on the cover design.

Here’s a quick summary—if it sounds up your alley, would love if it could find a place in your home or your e-reading device :-)!:

Cold water surfer Sara Dyer distills lessons learned through her time surfing the coast of New England and beyond in this brief manual for living and being. With candor, wit and good vibes, she offers bite-sized anecdotes, reflections and challenges on living our best lives on and off the water.

A treasure trove of advice for both surfers and general lovers of wildness and living an authentic life, readers will keep this in their pocket for inspiration to dive in when they’re feeling resistance, be it cold water or any challenge in life.

Walk through the fear and eat donuts
If you ride a wave, you’re a surfer
Join the party
You have a right to be here
It’ll go a lot more smoothly if we keep our heads

Surf Lesson Tips for a Little One's First Surf Lesson

I brought my friend’s 6-year old out on the water for a surf for her first surf lesson yesterday. The little lady had mulled over the idea for a couple wks and last wk when I saw her she said, “Sara, I’ve decided. I want to go surfing.” I practically did a cartwheel.

In advance of taking her out, I put together a couple notes, some picked up from my surfing and own lessons I’ve taken, most picked up from the fabulous Maddie who has taught every outdoor skill to every group of folks you can imagine. Here’s my bullet points to draw on and refresh on going forward. These are my own personal tips that have helped me, and not an official recommendation to those teaching surfing in any way. My # rule is safety first, fun second. Not the sexiest recommendation but it’s incredibly important to me to keep my people safe.

Prep

Find out how comfy your surfer is with the water — that’s really helpful to know. Can they swim?
Everyone should bring: wetsuit [New England], snacks, sunscreen, water
I brought my 8’ foam top Wavestorm for Ollie to ride as it’s buoyant and FOAMIE.
Sequence for lesson: Quick dry land sesh followed by water time

On land

>Go over the anatomy of the board
>”Whos the best surfer?” [The surfer having the most fun]
>Figure out stance on board [which foot will be first for them?]: Few options here:
You can just have the person fall forward and see what leg they catch themselves with.
You can say, per Maddie, “show me your ninja stance” or “have you ever slid across a wooden floor? show me how you’d do that”
You can hold their hands and pull them towards you and see what leg they catch themselves with.
You can push them lightly from behind and see what foot and see what leg they catch themselves with.
>Pop up practice
>Where the board should be [never between you and wave]
>Safety: Falling: Make a cage for your head; fall to your butt/like a starfish if you fall off the board. Never dive, never go head first.
>I put leash on her. That was something I monitored but for the most part it made sense for her to be tethered to board.
>If they’re nervous, go through what Kerri from Narragansett did — what makes a wave, the journey it takes to get to you, the fact that you alone will surf that one unique wave [helpful mystical distraction and you can both draw in the sand :-)]

In water

>Walk board out together; go over the fact that the board should always be making a T with the beach/pointing either toward the horizon or toward the shore
>Watch waves
>For a little one, you can ride with arms along the length of board and chest on board for a few waves.
>Bellyriding is still surfing. Kneeriding is still surfing. If you ride a wave, you’re a surfer. That’s what I stick to.
>If they’re really really comfy, make sure they’re on the right spot on the board, give them a push, and hoot and holler as they ride.

How to get out
>Best case scenario, your surfer is having the time of their life and they want to keep surfing forever. Three hours in, I found ice cream was a helpful motivator for getting out :-).

Cliff notes

At the end of the day, it’s all about constant communication and gauging comfort level. It’s fairly easy to tell when someone feels uncomfortable. Taking a quick breath or a break is no big deal if someone gets water up the nose or gets wobbled and scared. After a moment like that, whatever you need to do [safely] that lets the surfer feel good about the water, is what you do. If that’s chasing your seagulls off your snack pack, great. If it’s eating Shark Bites [feels a little too on the nose to do that but hey], taking a quick silly selfie or applying more crazy colored Zinc, do it. After a little bauble, we bodysurfed a bunch until she was feeling stoked on the water again. Be confident, be there, and be positive with your surfer and it will go a long way.

Sharing the stoke is probably the thing that is most rewarding in my life. To have quality time with my buddy, sharing something I love so much with her, gave me such a high that keeps warming my heart. Seeing her face when she felt the wave took her and let her ride, was so magical. So many good things.